Don’t get me wrong, when I say ”sick of being asked” I don’t mean it literally. It’s just that we constantly get asked the same things over and over again by straight men either just being curious, or getting a bit of advice for their own behalf. This triggered me a few nights ago at a party when there was a few lads asking me and Robert about our sexuality and I just thought to myself, it’s always the same questions! So here’s a few common ones I’ve been asked over the years, and my answers to them lol
What’s it like being gay?
Well, this question always has an answer that makes straight lads go ”Oh yeah, I suppose”. I always try turn it back on them and ask them what it’s like to be straight – they can never answer it properly. I suppose it’s the same as asking someone ”What’s it like to be human?” It doesn’t feel like anything because it’s just how I am naturally.
What’s it feel like kissing a fella?
This is also a bounce back question. It’s the exact same as you feel kissing a girl!
When/how did you realise you were gay?
For me, I don’t think there was a time where I ‘realised’ I was gay, I didn’t just wake up one day and be like ”Oh shit, I’m gay”. I think it’s more a journey from when you’re a teenager to when you’re growing up to adulthood. You naturally know what you like and what you don’t like without a sudden halt of realisation. If you’re asking me when I DEFINITELY knew, it’s when I first kissed/had sex with another fella.
How do you know you’re gay if you’ve never been with a girl?
How do you know you’re straight if you’ve never been with a boy?
What did your Ma/Da say?
Well to be very honest, they kinda knew lol. It wasn’t half obvious. Of course it was nerve-wracking having to actually sit them down and say it, but once the words came out of my mouth they said ”So? We knew that” and went on with their business. Nothing more said.
Do you look at other fellas when you’re getting changed in the gym?
This one isn’t a common one but it’s one I’ve been asked. Nothing happens really, people assume just because you’re gay you’re attracted to every male you see. That’s not the case at all. Straight lads aren’t attracted to every girl they see so it works the same way.
If gay fellas are so attracted to masculinity then why do they act so feminine?
Well first of all not all gays act feminine, I know plenty of them that act more masculine than some straight people I know. Although this is a very good question – it’s simply just personal preference. There’s so much diversity in heterosexual people on how they act/what they’re into, and vice-versa. But it’s like saying to a girl if she’s attracted to men then why does she like a bloke that does sunbeds and gets his eyebrows done all the time? Those can be considered feminine things to do, but you’d never ask a straight person the above question.
Most of the questions can be flipped around and asked back to whoever’s asking, because to be honest it’s not that big of a deal to be gay. It’s not really something that should be questioned (not complaining about the fact that it does) but some people get super curious about it and it always seems to be the same questions from everyone lol. Anyway.
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